Group question: The question today has to do with the concepts of anger and sorrow since they seem to be so common to our experience. We are wondering if there is a way of opening ourselves and allowing the processes of anger and sorrow to pass through, to be broken by the experience, and to be healed so that afterwards we are stronger or wiser, or more loving, or will somehow benefit from having had this experience. Could you talk to us about anger and sorrow?

(Q’uo, September 18, 1994)

Greetings in the love and in the light of the One Infinite Creator. We are those known to you as Q’uo. We offer this circle our thanks and blessing for allowing us to blend our vibrations with your own and to be called to share our Opinions with you on the subject of dealing with trouble and woe. As always, we respectfully ask that each who hears these words employs discrimination, accepting only those thoughts which ring true to you and allowing all others to pass by, for we would not wish to create a stumbling block by sharing our mere opinion. We, like you, make mistakes and share with you as fellow seekers after truth, not as those who are in authority.

In order to speak on this subject we must back up and begin from the general standpoint, looking at the whole being and its purpose as seeker in experiencing incarnation in this third density of yours at this particular time. As it is the latter portion of the cycles before the phenomenon this instrument calls the coming of the New Age, many of those who are seeking at this time are those who have by seniority of vibration been given the opportunity of incarnating at a time when both the positive polarity and the negative polarity are attempting to increase the intensity of their distortions toward service to others for the positive entities and service to self for the negatively polarizing entities.

In this environment both the positive and. the negative in polarization shall naturally seem more extreme, and so it is that within your culture at this time there are many whose seeking of the truth is outstanding and whose efforts to learn the lessons of love are substantial and persistent. At the same time, those involved in seeking negative polarization are attempting in a marked manner to create negatively polarizing situations which may express the utmost in negative orientation. Consequently, there are legions of those who think nothing of stealing or killing, some for a holy reason, supposedly, but many for no reason except the attraction of power.

It is against this backdrop in your history that the seeking for truth now goes on upon your sphere. The rules, shall we say, have not changed, but the experience is more intense for all upon your sphere. We have the ability to speak to this circle and say that each within this circle has won through to the present incarnation by virtue of many labors of love, shall we say, done prior to the present incarnational experience. Each feels fairly strongly that the seeking of the spirit, the seeking of the heart, the seeking for a greater understanding of love, is properly the center of the incarnation. Each is attempting to live according to the positive path and attempting to polarize positively. Therefore, we do not have to coax any to do the work necessary to continue working on that polarization. Each has some grasp of why he or she is here: to learn the lessons that love has to teach.

The questions that remain are more along the lines of wondering why it must be so confusing to seek the truth, why the Creator so often seems hidden within a situation. To sum up many thoughts, “Why does it have to be so hard?” For the heart remembers perfect ease and harmony. Contradicting all experiences within the incarnation, there lies the heartfelt feeling that the normal way to live is not available in this incarnation.

The memory stubbornly persists that harmonization between people is second nature, and we say to you that, indeed, except for third-density experience, harmonization betwixt any two entities is not just possible, but to some extent in positive polarity, inevitable. The question then becomes, “Why did I leave that pleasant estate to come into this intensely difficult environment equipped only with the limited and confused biases which all seem to fall wide of the truth, so-called. What is the great goal seen that made me come here?”

Perhaps you already have the answer. You came here because you wished a challenge and because you wished to serve. The challenge for each is unique to each and was set by you before this incarnational experience. Each entity wished to take particular courses over again in the school of life, as this instrument would call it. Each wished to drive home one way of learning to love.

Each also wished to be of service and that is another topic. We speak now of that entity who came here to your orb, not because it was pleasant, but because it was difficult, confused, and very dark in many cases. And because each wished to immerse the self within this difficult and baffling set of conditions so that the lesson would be enduring, deep, and thorough. Each wanted to work very hard. Before an incarnation the self remembers that incarnations are more difficult than they seem beforehand, but just as the student remembers the joy of learning and forgets some of the agony of change involved in learning and adopting amended ideas, so each has an element of surprise and even betrayal. Each argues to some extent with the judgment of that Higher Self that chose these lessons.

In addition to the services which each came to offer, there are tools which one may use to work with one’s own grief, anger, disappointment, and rage. The first tool is the one around which we have been throwing up a structure of words to rather enclose. That reason is a stubborn faith that you came here to work, so now, let us work. The first tool to use when you are working with negative emotions is simply remembering who you are and why you came here, why you are here now. For there is, in each case, good reason for you to be precisely where you are. As the one known as Ra has said, there may be surprises, but, there are no mistakes.

The knowledge that you, yourself, judged these lessons possible to be learned can be a cheerful knowledge to recall. Not only would the Creator not offer you more than you could bear, also neither would you, yourself, before this experience place yourself in that kind of situation. Therefore, if you are to be overwhelmed by these negative experiences, we encourage the allowing of this being overwhelmed. If there are the tears, cry them. Cry them all and respect each drop. Respect and love those mute expressions of grief, anger, sorrow, and rage. Accept the excesses of feeling that shake and seemingly hurt you. Know that these feelings are justified, that these feelings are protected, that there is time for these feelings to express. And work with the self to encourage the eventual completion of expression of the feelings involved.

We encourage each to nurture the self through these difficult times, allowing and even encouraging those tears, the raised voice, the angry motions, all the silly, childish acting-out that is involved in being overcome by emotion. For within this deep, opaque illusion, there is no other way to complete and then balance negative emotions. The only way through the feelings of negative emotions is directly into the midst of them. So, attempt, if you would be good to yourself, not to turn and run from painful feelings, but rather to choose a time to nurture the self and within that nurturing time alone look at, accept, and offer respect to the bruises, the hurt feelings, the pain that is going on. For these emotions, when accepted and respected, can scour and scrub much material that is ready to be taken off of one’s shoulder, emotionally speaking, and rinse those ripened, matured, evidences of pain away. In many ways sorrow and its tears, anger and its loud voices are healing to the troubled soul. The anger, the sorrow these are not things to fear; they are experiences to go through in the way that is most true and real for each.

The second tool which may be used when these feelings are seen is the turning to the One Infinite Creator, for these feelings are taking place in an infinite creation. Within this infinite creation there is one thing that is true. That thing is love, love expressing as truth, as beauty, as goodness, love expressing as mystery. It is not necessary, you see, to remain in the sea of confusion, paddling about in the frail bark?? of flesh that is your own upon this infinite voyage. Once the reality within the illusion is addressed, once the sorrow and anger have been owned, accepted, respected, and the entity within all that feeling nurtured, then is there wisdom in turning to praise and thanksgiving of the One Infinite Creator, to turning once again to love.

This is not done in a way which denies all that seems imperfect, but merely setting those painful emotions into the most true version of a universe which you can find, and that is that infinity of space and time against which the troubles of a day begin to seem somewhat small. Within the self lies all that there is. The portion of the self dealing with the surface emotions within a particular incarnation is most small. It does not belie the agony felt to place it against the backdrop of infinity and see that it does not take up the entire creation, but that there is a deeper and surrounding environment which goes beyond space and time and of which each is more a native than this present Earth. Each is a citizen of infinite and eternal creation, moving into praise and thanksgiving, readjusting the point of view, biasing it towards truth and polarizing it towards service.

When the object of anger or sorrow is another, there is a type of meditation or experience this instrument would call prayer in which prayers are offered for the entity which has been catalyst for this sorrow or anger. Praying for that entity which has harmed you also reorients the deeper mind and biases the deeper mind more towards truth.

The last of the tools we shall speak of this day is the tool of the One Self. When the mind can settle upon the unity of each self with all other selves, then it can more readily be seen that each entity outside of the self is simply a mirror reflecting your self back to you. Those things which anger you are angering you about yourself within some portion of your inner, larger, self. The sorrow felt for others is sorrow felt for the self. It only seems to involve others. Taken upon the surface, this statement seems patently false. However, in the deeper sense, and certainly in the sense of working spiritually with emotions, it is true, as far as we know, that all that you see is your Self. You are in common with all that there is.

At this time we shall again thank this group for inviting our presence. We are most filled with joy at each opportunity to blend our vibrations with your own. We assure each that we walk with you on this journey and that no entity walks alone, for each has those friends, teachers, and guides that walk with it as do those brothers and sisters within your own illusion walk with each in spirit.

We are known to you as those of Q’uo, and we shall take our leave of this group at this time, leaving each, as always, in the love and in the light of the One Infinite Creator. Adonai, my friends. Adonai.


(Oxal, December 6, 1981)

You, my friends, are in exile. All upon your planet are in a strange land. There is no comfort for the spirit in the milieu of your culture. The planet that man has made is a strange and barbarous territory. You are in exile in your bodies.

There is within you a knowledge, a remembrance, a memory of the light and the infinite life of your true existence and of your true body. But here you are, cast away and what have you done, you exiles of the soul? Have you banded together defensively to protect yourselves against the pain of living? Have you attempted to convince yourselves that exile is home? Examine the actions that you take and the thoughts that you think, and you may find in yourself many, many traces of the behavior of a stranger in a strange land.

My friends, there is comfort. There is complete and utter comfort. It is in looking outward that you miss the one source of home, for to find that home you must look within the self. Beneath all those things which you have been taught and all those things which you have rationalized, there lies a homeland and a true being so deeply fixed within you that you cannot lose it; you cannot forget it. It is not to be earned, but it may be sought. Seek, my friends, the peace of your true home, balm of your true identity, and in that knowledge look out upon this illusion and see it in love and in light. If you seek wisdom you shall not find it in your illusion. In meditation go home, for you that home is by right of infinite birth.

I am known to you as Oxal. Let there be no division in yourself. Cease all confusion and know that exiles think strange things. Seek that which awaits within. I leave you in the love and in the light of the Infinite Creator. Adonai. Vasu. Borragus.


Thanks to all who have written Carla about their experiences as Wanderers. She is still collecting information for her handbook for Wanderers, so anyone who feels that he or she might be a Wanderer is encouraged to write Carla.