Group question: It is very hard to get an objective point of view about ourselves. We have a much easier time helping other people with their problems and catalyst and seeing things in an objective way. How can we use the mirroring effect in our daily lives to enhance our own understanding about ourselves?

(Q’uo, November 21, 1999, Sunday Meditation)

We are those of the principle known to you as Q’uo. Greetings in the love and in the light of the One Infinite Creator. It is in the Creator’s service that we come to this group this evening. May we thank each of you for desiring to know the truth and for calling us to your session of working. It is a great blessing for us to be able to speak to you in this manner, for it is through instruments such as this one that we are able to offer our ideas and opinions without trespassing on the free will of those whom we would wish to serve. Therefore you serve us greatly by allowing us to serve you, for this is our path of service at this time, and to be able to exercise that which we came to offer is a great blessing. As always, we ask that each of you listen with a discerning and discriminating ear and heart to our thoughts and to the thoughts of any who would offer opinion and teaching. For truth is not a solid and unchanging thing. There are as many personal truths as there are persons or spirits, for each has an unique viewpoint. Therefore, those thoughts that we offer to you-take them or leave them as you wish and keep only those that you find helpful.

You ask us this day concerning how to make use of the catalyst that is offered to you by those with whom you are in relationship in the form of those things that catch the attention in irritation, aggravation or annoyance. You have said that you understand that these other entities all serve as reflections of yourself. And perhaps we can work upon this point a bit to bring it into a more lucid focus. Each of you and each of us is the One Infinite Creator in each iota or atom or cell of our makeup. No matter who the entity is, it is a portion of all that there is and all that there is exists in that portion, in the way of holographic images. Thusly when you see another entity and react to that entity, you are the Creator seeing the Creator. This is a truth about you, regardless of the situation in which one entity gazes upon another.

Throughout your recorded history it has been so that in the apparent world there were great differences between people. Some had great possessions and wealth while others had little or nothing. Some have great influence and power while others are helpless and at the mercy of those who are powerful. The apparent inequities of the ages remain inequities because the Creator in each of you is at the core of each of you. It is the work of many, many incarnations to begin to bring the truth at the core of the being up into the light of consciousness and the consciously lived life. But no matter how deep the seeming schism, no matter how bottomless the abyss that seems to yawn between two people, no matter what the apparent inequity between two people, at the core each is joined to each forever in a unity that is endless and complete. Density may pass into density and octave into octave forever, and you shall still be one with every entity that has ever disturbed or bothered you as well as one with every entity that has ever earned your respect, admiration, compassion or love. You have no room to pick and choose amongst the great variety that is apparent upon your Earth plane in terms of the truth of your being and the truth of the being of those with whom you come into contact.

Needless to say, it is not the function of the illusion in which you find yourself to bring the core truths to light. Rather, it is the function of the illusion in which you find yourself to toss you into a sea of confusion again and again and again, as often as this can possibly happen without completely deluging and foundering the spirit within. Now each of you, as an eternal and infinite being, at a point before you decided upon incarnation within the Earth plane, sat down with your Higher Self and spiritual guides and considered carefully the life which you were about to embark upon. You considered the relationships that would give you the catalyst that you needed in order for growth to occur of a spiritual type. You considered these relationships well. From the standpoint of an entity which is not within the heavy chemical illusion of third density you gazed upon the richness of the learning experience awaiting you, and you gleefully rubbed your hands, thinking to yourself that this would be a wonderful adventure, an experience to remember, a great opportunity for increasing your polarity. This last is central, for each of you chose a catalyst that would work directly upon your polarity; that is, the intensity with which you desire either to serve others or to serve yourself.

It seemed so obvious to you, before incarnation, that these relationships that were being set up and the dynamics that would develop would be helpful. It simply did not occur to you that perhaps you might lose your way, that perhaps you might become completely overwhelmed by the sea of confusion, that you might temporarily drown in this confusion and become completely without hope. It was not obvious to you from the standpoint of infinity and eternity that minutes and hours could be endlessly long, that the dynamic of a difficult relationship could be excruciating emotionally, that the pain of living through relationships that were somewhat difficult over a period of time would be cumulative and distressing in the extreme. These things did not occur to the eager and ardent soul that you are in eternity and infinity. Simply put, it did not occur to you that the veil of forgetting would have such a powerful influence upon your awareness of the truth. However, it is just this deadening, numbing forgetting that places you in the optimal position for work in polarizing and sharpening and honing the desire to serve ever more truly, ever more deeply, ever more purely.

Here each of you is sitting in this circle with a heart still ardent, intentions still earnest, and ideals still high. Yet each of you is bemused and concerned because of those things which you see as failures upon your part, failures to keep the cheerfulness, to feel the light and the love of the Infinite Creator surrounding each and every situation. And we can only say to you in your darkness, in your searching, in your confusion, be at peace. Know that all is well. It is utterly and completely acceptable and a very helpful learning experience to feel irritation, aggravation, and annoyance. It may be distressing. It may seem very confusing. And it may feel like an error that is dirty and sinful. Nevertheless, each time that you, as a consciously living entity, become aware that you are not treating another entity as the Creator, you are in a very enviable position from the standpoint of one who has set before the self the race to run. For in this situation there is no human forgiveness possible. You see, each of you is deliberately cut off from your perfection. You embraced the humanity, which is error prone, because it was error prone, because you wanted to become blind and deaf and dumb to the full awareness of the One Infinite Creator.

You may ask, “Am I supposed to flounder in this sea of confusion for my entire incarnation? Is there no way that I can improve at moving from the surface of a situation in which I experience catalyst to a deeper appreciation of the opportunities that this catalyst offers?” And we say to you, you may well attempt to become ever more quickly aware of the true situation and move from confusion to faith, but do not ever begrudge these irritations and annoyances in relationships that bring you to yourself.

Now you have asked how you can work with the awareness that entities are a reflection of yourself, and we say to you: work with them by releasing yourself and them from the strictures of humanity. It is not efficient or often possible to work with situations upon the level that the situation has occurred. In your humanity you have very limited resources when it comes to expressing love. Your supply runs out, and you are not expected in and of yourself to have infinite love. This is not within the capacity or the blueprint for human entities. It is necessary for the learning experience for an incarnation that you repeatedly come to the end of your human resources and then are forced to look at choices between despair and hope, between doubt and confidence, between giving up and keeping the faith. Thusly we would suggest to each of you that, when you begin to experience these irritations in a relationship between friends and relatives and loved ones, move immediately to a position of forgiveness of self. For your real work in consciousness is not with another entity but with the self.

Now in the example that this instrument gave in the conversation prior to this contact the entity involved was an entity which required that which this instrument was unable to offer with a full and open heart. This entity was immediately caught up in that situation with the mechanics of refraining of offering catalyst to the other entity. The one known as Romi, however, was precisely accurate in pointing out that there is an alternative to bearing difficulty in silence.

There are several alternatives to this. One is that choice of anger which in a blaze of truth blasts both self and other self in a fire of destruction, offering further catalyst to both entities. This is an acceptable way to work with the catalyst of irritation. There is the choice of attempting to express the feelings of the self to the other self. This choice is somewhat more skillful, taking into account as it does that the other entity in the equation of dynamics is also an infinite and eternal being which may wish to work carefully and thoughtfully upon its own inner processes. In such open communication there is much hope and the faith that it takes to expose the poverty of the self to another is that effort put forth that does increase the polarity of the self. For there is that open-hearted communication in faith. There is the choice that some have repeatedly made in such a situation of maintaining a silence concerning the inner processes of irritation and anger and so forth. This can be a somewhat skillful choice if it is combined with a very light touch. The instinct of most entities in this situation is towards a heavier and heavier and ever more earnest and deeply felt concern. Whereas the more skillful approach to suffering in silence is to suffer in silence while amusing the self, finding inner laughter and achieving a point of view that puts the entire foolish quarrel of humans into perspective as the blind leading the blind, both falling into the ditch.

Perhaps from this exposition you may see that we are not, as teachers, particularly concerned with which option you choose, for in each process lessons will be offered and learning will be possible. There are two elements at work when you are working upon polarity. One is faith. One is desire. Look to your desire that it may be of the highest and the best that you know. Look to the true and the good and the beautiful and hew as best you can to the high road, keeping in mind always that it is intention, not manifestation, that is important in the metaphysical universe of time/space. Keep in mind that it is faith that you are attempting to express in your life and in your being. Faith does not make sense. Faith gives one no avenue to pride. Faith seems to be the slenderest of all reeds to cling to, and yet the soul who lives by faith, the spirit who clings to faith, the one who refuses to let it go, is that spirit which shall achieve advances in polarity, and this is an achievement that redounds not to the incarnational self alone but to the eternal and infinite self.

Thusly we ask that whether you burst into angry speech, keep silence, find communication, or simply work with the self to lighten the mood that you do these things with an eye to keeping the faith. What is it to live by faith but to look at a situation that seems hopeless and say “I believe that all is well.” May we say that in our opinion this affirmation is one of the two most powerful, enabling and ennobling of all learnings, of all expression, of all spiritual manifestation. The other is forgiveness. When you are looking at that part of your universal self that you do not wish to see-that is, when you are having difficulty with another entity it may not seem possible for you to forgive that entity, and by reflection it may not seem possible for you to forgive yourself. And may we say further it is not possible to either forgive self or other self without a release of that self and an acceptance of help, for there is help at the core of your being waiting to be accessed, waiting to be asked. For the Infinite Creator in infinite love and infinite patience sits in a humble chair in a little corner of your heart waiting to be called upon, waiting to be brought into the center of the heart, waiting to be noticed, waiting to be asked. In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with deity and that Logos was deity, and that deity is Love, and that Love is you. At the heart of your being lie all the resources that you will ever, ever need. At the heart of your being lies infinite truth, infinite power, infinite strength.

When you can lay the burden of selfhood down and allow that core of Self to speak as the little self, then you shall be overshadowed by infinite energy. And there are times when each of you has experienced this grace, times when you have prayed and received blessing, when it has become possible for you to love and forgive another and the self. Know that these things are possible. Know that it does not matter whether you have not succeeded or whether you feel that you have. For you are doing well simply to arise in the morning and breathe the air and respond as best you can to the busyness and the pleasure of the day.

All is well. This may be your mantra. All will be well. This will be your hope. Allow yourself to fail. Allow yourself to be upset. There is no disaster here, but only the opportunity for learning and growth. And know that help is always nearer than your breathing, closer than your own features. Entities of great love and wisdom surround you, love you, and want to support you. Lean into that invisible help and know always that all is well.


Carla has now gathered all the quotes from readers and from our archives of channeled material so that by the time you read this newsletter she will be actively writing A WANDERER’S HANDBOOK. It has been a long, loving process and we are very hopeful that it will speak to the hearts of those who feel like spiritual outsiders, alienated and alone.

New Year’s blessings and balance to all.